For every member and host
A good room starts with respect.
Meet with care
Attend as a single adult interested in meeting people. Be honest about yourself and your intentions. Respect names, pronouns, boundaries and a no. Harassment, discrimination, unwanted touching and pressure to exchange contact details are not welcome.
Play at your comfort level
Follow venue instructions and host briefings. You can sit out, choose an easier option or leave at any time. Activity verification is not a medical assessment, identity check or guarantee of another person's behaviour.
Show up
A paid place is one someone on the waitlist didn’t get, and the room is balanced around you. If your plans change, cancel from your dashboard as early as you can; it’s free until 48 hours before the start. Cancelling inside 48 hours or not showing up forfeits the fee, pauses registration for 30 days and counts as a strike. If your place is refilled and paid before the night, the fee comes back less a CAD $10 administration fee. Strikes expire 12 months after the night; 3 unexpired strikes end membership. A night the club cancels or moves never counts against you. Think a strike is wrong? Email info@firstmoveclub.com within 7 days; the founder reads it and replies in writing (once the club has a co-host, someone other than the host of that night reads it). The Terms have the details.
Keep interest private
You never owe someone a date or an explanation. After an event you privately pick up to two people you would like to see again, or no one, and you are introduced only when two people picked each other. A match is an introduction, not a promise of a date. Do not pursue someone who has declined or share their personal information. The photos on your picks list are there to help you remember who was who: never save, screenshot or share anyone's photo. If you would rather not see someone again, “Hide me from this person” on the roster quietly removes each of you from the other’s list; nobody is told.
Photos are optional
Ask before photographing anyone. Event attendance does not imply photo or marketing consent: the host asks at check-in whether you are happy to appear in photos that evening and records your answer, and nothing in which you are recognisable is published without asking you again about that specific image. Hosts must provide a way to participate without being photographed.
Hosts hold themselves to this too
Hosts follow every line of this code, never keep a copy of anything they see while reviewing, and may not use the club to pursue members. A concern about a host goes to info@firstmoveclub.com; the founder reads it and replies in writing (once the club has a co-host, someone other than that host reads it).
Report a concern
If something makes you uncomfortable, there are three ways to tell us:
- tell the host at the event, who can step in straight away;
- after the night, use “Report a concern” on your dashboard, which lets you name the person by their roster reference and say whether you want to be contacted;
- email info@firstmoveclub.com at any time, during or after a night.
A person acknowledges every report within 24 hours and handles it discreetly; we may remove participants or decline future attendance, and we never tell the person reported who raised it. This inbox is not an emergency service; for immediate danger call 911. Our safety guide covers meeting someone after an event and where to get help.